Your Guide
Dr. Femke Bakker is a Selfgentleness guide, meditation teacher, political psychologist and former actor. For decades she was the strong one, tired and hard on herself, until she found a gentler way she now calls selfgentleness.
Journey Description
You watch yourself do it. Saying yes before you have decided you really wanted to say yes. Apologize for something that was not your fault. Give until something in you runs out. Across three short audios you name the reflex, look honestly at what it is costing you, and find a gentler way to hold yourself, one where you matter too.
Journey Tracks
Before You Decide
There is a moment before you answer when the yes is already out of your mouth. This first practice helps you notice the reflex, without any pressure to change it yet.
What It Is Costing You
Say yes enough times and something in you runs out, along with a quiet resentment toward people who never even asked. Here you look honestly at what the giving is costing you, and at the fear underneath it.
The Doorway
You already put your own oxygen mask on first every time you fly. This track offers a gentler way to hold yourself in the rest of your life, and a next step if you want one.
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